Surrender, Let Go and Move On

Life is a balance of holding on and letting go ~ Rumi

We have all abandoned ship on a relationship, or an uncomfortable situation that we have had to deal with.  Rather than confront the situation head on we chose to simply walk away with no explanation.  The negative emotions that are attached to our actions stick with us, haunting us and holding us back.  Surrendering ourselves to the guilt we feel over how we handled the situation is necessary so that we may move forward.  Relinquish the past, cast off the guilt.  Move on.

Country recording artist Cam along with Tyler Johnson and Jeff Blasker penned this song.  It  is written from the point of view of the person ending a relationship abruptly without explanation:

Burning House

I had a dream about a burning house

You were stuck inside, I couldn’t get you out

I laid beside you and pulled you close

And the two of us went up in smoke

Cam explains the inspiration for writing the song here.

Love isn’t all that it seems I did you wrong

I’ll stay here with you until this dream is gone

We have to let go so that we may move on.  We must forgive others and more importantly forgive ourselves so that we may experience peace.

I’ve been sleep walking, been wandering all night

Trying to take what’s lost and broke and make it right

I’ve been sleep walking too close to the fire

But it’s the only place that I can hold you tight

In this burning house

When we live in the past, allowing it to determine our present we are unable to manifest the life we wish to live.  By continuing to hang on to our past and the negative emotions attached to it, we unconsciously give our power away by succumbing to the guilt we feel. There are always memory triggers that take us back to the emotions we felt, but those are the times when we need to seek the wisdom we gained from the situation and find courage and strength to move forward.

See you at a party and you look the same

I could take you back but people don’t ever change

Wish that we could go back in time

I’d be the one you thought you’d find

New relationships are an opportunity to heal.  A chance for a “do-over”.  This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t reflect on the lessons learned from our past, but rather take the lessons learned and apply them to our new relationship.  Take the wisdom from past experiences and apply it to new experiences.

Love isn’t all that it seems I did you wrong

I’ll stay here with you until this dream is gone

I’ve been sleep walking, been wandering all night

Trying to take what’s lost and broke and make it right

I’ve been sleep walking too close to the fire

But it’s the only place that I can hold you tight

In this burning house

We know we caused someone pain and we question ourselves as to how we could have handled the situation better.  How could we have spoken our truth with love?  Feeling guilt for a while is good because it reminds us we don’t  want to make the same mistake again. Accepting our mistakes allows us to grow.  It allows us to thrive.

The flames are getting bigger now

In this burning house

I can hold on to you somehow

In this burning house

When we let go of the "fire" and stop our "sleep walking" and wandering we will find peace.  We will find courage.  We will find ourselves.

Oh, and I don’t want to wake up

In this burning house

The truth is unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward ~ Steve Maraboli

When we find the courage to let go, something better always comes along.  What do you need to let go of?